Let’s talk about our kids and their right to privacy. Specifically I am curious about your thoughts regarding parenting in the day and age of social media. We have all heard the phrase “Facebook perfect”, referring to editing what you post or only posting the very best of what is happening in your life. While I do not believe it is right to create a facade, I also do not think it is appropriate on any platform to air your dirty laundry for all your friends and acquaintances to see. I’m not claiming to have found the balance, and I am sure that balance is different for everyone. As a parent though it does make me wonder about our children’s right to privacy before they are old enough to choose for themselves what gets posted about them in the digital world.
Even though they are innocent in nature, as I have scrolled past pictures of kids on the toilet or in their underwear around the stage of growing out of toddler-hood, I’ve wondered if those kids would ever mind if they knew that had been shared. Does it matter since they probably will never know? Will it be weird for them when they get older to know their whole childhood was on display or will that just be normal? I don’t know.
My kids are 2 and 4. So I am at the very beginning of this journey. Up until and including right now I think I probably post a lot about my kids. On Facebook I am a little more personal since I am friends with only my real life friends and family. Also I’ve come to have a love/hate relationship with the On This Day feature. As a blogger though wrestling with this question recently, I have tried to keep the focus on MY perspective and take on experiences when writing about mom stuff and keeping anything that maybe more personal about my kids out.
For those with kids too young to ask about their thoughts on what you are posting about them, do you have any rules about posting now? Do you have any plans or rules for posting in the future as they get older?
For those with kids that are older than mine, I wonder if there is a certain age you started asking your kids if you post something about them? Or do you go ahead and post and expect an eye roll? Do your kids even care? Is there an understanding that certain topics are off limits?
For all, has anyone else posted something about your child that bothered you? When you post about a child that is not yours do you ask the parents for permission?
This is purely to get others’ opinions and takes on the subject because I am truly curious about how other parents or even grandparents feel about the topic. Thanks in advance for your comments and thoughts!